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sweetblossoms
real-pcys

hot take: moms need to learn how to listen to and comfort their daughters without making everything about their own traumas

real-pcys

a classic example

daughter: hey this thing you do bothers me very much and i wish you wouldn’t do it

mom: well my parents abused me and im not even as bad as they were and i had to sit through it so you gotta sit through whatever i do to you too

daeranilen

a common variant

mom: well i’m having a really hard time right now and you know that i’m doing my best and that i didn’t mean to hurt you ergo you are in fact the asshole for asking me to consider your feelings and change my behavior during this hard hard time i’m having

thetrekkiehasthephonebox

least favorite

mom: fine. you’re right and i’m wrong and i’m a horrible person. there. are you happy now?


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mom: you can’t be mad at me. you’re not allowed to be mad at me. i can’t stand it.

star-anise

Yeah this is just straight-up emotional abuse. It’s not uncommon for moms to confuse “emotional closeness” with demanding their children caretake for them emotionally, or just having no boundaries. And “have you considered that you are in fact the abusive one” is bog-standard DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender).

Women also make the mistake that because we are frequent targets for abuse, we cannot be abusive ourselves. WOMEN CERTAINLY CAN BE ABUSIVE, especially towards children society has historically said we ought to have the power of life and death over, and who tradition says should be 100% subservient to us.

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bigbroemen
tvhousehusband

Bob and a few other queens got REAL about racism.

crosillanimous

Y'all people really don’t get it: the point is to not consider being racist an insult. It’s factual that there are race biases ingrained into people’s minds and the first step to eradicate them is to accept it. Saying she’s being racist further proves that you didn’t understand a damn thing. Every white American is “racist”, as in they have been raised with racist concepts; black people have been raised with the same concepts, except they either refuse them or internalize it. As Bob said, white people don’t have an history of being killed and hanged and enslaved for being black. And they will NEVER understand that. While black people still have, to this day, to fear some parts of the USA for the forementioned motives.

finndeservesbetter

The only good response on this post so far

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toadprince
roxolotl

I think we need to talk about how dangerous softboy nerd sexual predators are. Every single time I’ve been creeped on or taken advantage of in college it wasn’t by a drunken jock fratboy. It was by a soft anxious nonthreatening nerd boy whose strategy was to get compassionate girls to feel sorry for him

noteventhetip

Men who say they’re Rick’s when they’re all actually Jerry’s. 

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deputyferret

this is the first time i have seen this show referrenced to make i good point, and let me just say that it is about damn time

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yicunhui
lilincat

I’ll never forget the conversation I had with my ex guy friend a few years ago. We were 24. And he was talking about this girl he met at work that he really liked. She was 17.

He was telling me how he liked her, and didn’t want to have sex with her until she was 18, and he just wanted to date her cuz sex would be “wrong”

But here’s what struck me about the conversation. When listing all the things he liked about her, not one of them was ABOUT her. It was about how much she like him and was interested in him and his life in his hobbies. How she found everything he did was amazing and cool.

And here’s where it really hit home for me “she’s not like girls our age” (I guess forgetting he was speaking to a girl his age) But what he meant by that wasn’t that she was special, what he meant was “she’s not old enough to have met more interesting people to compare me to” and “she’s not experienced enough to fight me on my bull shit”

Because of course a teenage girl is gonna find a 24 year old man who has a nice car, a money to pay for things and the freedom to be involved in all his fun hobbies, of course she’s gonna find all that Amazing. Cuz she’s in highschool. Where as “girls his age” expect that. It’s not cool and amazing. Girls his age expect more. Girls his age also aren’t gonna fall for cheesey one liners and compliments, especially not in the same way an insecure still figuring herself out teenage girl is.

And let me tell you, this guy was no “loser” when it came to women. He was popular, good looking, everyone knew him, and for a lack of better words he “got around” But when it came to serious relationships I’m sure he heard a mouthful from the few women he dated “get a stable job so you can move out of your parents house” (and look no shade, the economy is rough but if you’re dating someone and they’re not even looking for jobs it’s annoying and trust me there was no fire under his ass to try) You know who he isn’t gonna hear that from? A teenage girl in highschool.

Thankfully nothing came of this. But what I really want to say, young people, if an older person is interested in you don’t trust them. Especially if you’re in highschool or just getting out of highschool. They don’t think you’re special, they think you’re not gonna be able to see their flaws. They’re trying to feed their ego. Cuz guess what? You are special. And you deserve every opportunity to figure out how goddamn special you are and be able to find someone just as special as you, and find you just as special and be able to have healthy equal relationships with that person. But that person who’s 6, 7- 10 years older than you isn’t interested in how special you are. They’re interested in how special you make them feel. And they will manipulate you to keep it that way.

Older people, keep your friends in check. Like I said, this guy wasn’t a loser, he didn’t have a history of dating young girls, he championed women’s rights, LGBT rights- you name it. White knighted his way past my ability to see thru his facade. Took me way to long to see what a shitty person he was.

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mouthmoodz
ichigotchipng

just wondering but why can’t something cute and childish exist without there being a subculture devoted to making it edgy or sexual. like? kirby doesn’t need to be drawn 3,000 times as an eldritch monster with a hyperrealistic mouth and demon eyes. there really isn’t a need for there to be any hentai of the animal crossing villagers, like at all. and alola vulpix definitely does NOT need a 3D butt mouse pad!!!!!!!!!

ichigotchipng

hey this post is getting taken over by gross people who think they own all children’s media and that drawing copious amounts of gore and porn of it is normal, could i get a few more good reblogs from good people?? it’d mean a lot to me

glitterydreamscollection

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